February 08th, 2013 2:49 am

How is your Valentine’s Day going?

Unless you are a teenager who is freshly in love, it is hard not to get cynical on Valentine’s Day.  Heart-shaped cards along with “flowers, chocolates, promises you don’t intend to keep” clog the day and the rampant commercialism blurs the supposedly original intent of the day, which was to celebrate courtly love or any romantic love.

When was the last time you were truly in love or felt romantically inclined?  Even if you are already in a relationship (married or otherwise), it is rare to experience that “in love” feeling.

It is often said that women have sex in between the ears.  But it is similar for men as well.  There is nothing more seductive than the adoring eyes of a woman who seems to think that you are the best thing in the world – most handsome, gentle, considerate, manly, etc. 

Same goes for women.  A woman may be ticked off by a man’s display of sexual prowess, status, or looks but would swoon for a man who looks at you with tender eyes that say that you are the most desired one in the world.

When we are in love, we want to spend a lot of time with the loved one, get to know the person, and do things for him/her that are pleasing to them.   All these acts of love require energy and time.  In order to give our loved ones that deep attention and signs of love, we have to be in a fit shape first.

When we are constantly tired, forever behind the chores/to-do lists (either at work or at home), and mostly irritated due to lack of sleep and increasing stress, it is nearly impossible to spare the time and energy to be “in love” with others. 

But any amount of candies or flowers won’t replace the true signs of love that we so crave.

So, check your own health first.

Are you, by any chance, suffering from the hormone deficiencies that might be the cause of all the symptoms that I listed above?  There is a high probability that you would benefit from getting your hormone levels checked and have your hormones properly balanced, if you are over 35.

We all experience less hormone production as we age, but if you insist on doing more work and flog your body more when your own native hormone levels are low, you will experience hormone deficient symptoms such as fatigue, irritability, insomnia, difficulty losing weight, memory fog, as well as hot flashes and loss of libido.

Once you have your hormone balanced and replaced, you will recover from any symptoms that might have been due to hormone insufficiency.  And you will most likely regain your old composure and generosity of time and energy that is required for falling in love.

So, go get your hormone balanced and plan on falling in love all over again with your loved one.  Then suddenly you wouldn’t get so cynical on the Valentine’s Day.